8 Pieces of Advice that I Have Solidified This Past Year:

1. First impressions mean shit. I’m terrible at reading somebody based upon them, and I feel like I can be terrible at making them. Think about the first time you met your current best friend (if you can remember that), or even, think about the first day of any sort of setting in a new group.. how many people did you properly assess? Giving people a chance is very important. But still value a first impression in an interview, because otherwise you might not get anywhere. Looks do matter to some degree.

2. Even though the world is HUGE, “we’re not so different, you and I.” In the United States we (well, most of us) pride ourselves on being a melting pot of cultures and backgrounds. This is, however, umbrella-ed under “American Culture” which we all STILL have in common, and gives us something to talk about. On the other side of the world, sure people know what The Hunger Games is, but people don’t know that there are 50 states in the United States! What I’m trying to say is, there are so many different political issues, pop cultures, etc. between us and the rest of the world, that even when you strip those differences away, everybody still loves to laugh, meet new people, and be surrounded by love. Every. Single. Person.

3. Those who matter will stay in your life, but don’t get so clingy. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I myself am a very “here and now” kind of person in the fact that I get very involved with what is in front of me, and often forget about my best friends from middle school and even forget that my cell phone exists from time to time (TEXT CONVERSATIONS: NO.). That being said, just because I have not texted you eleven times today or even within the past three months, does not mean that you don’t cross my mind every so often and especially I don’t love you! Maybe this is something I need to work on, now that I think of it. Snapchat helps.

4. Forcing will not work. I cannot force a guy to like me, I cannot force my friends of different groups friends to weld together seamlessly, I cannot sing if I have bronchitis, and I definitely cannot make other people respect me if I do not show an ounce of compassion. Yes, if you look at it from a physics standpoint, any object that is at rest will remain at rest unless a force is applied to it, but how many people actually like Sheldon Cooper

5. Take what you are given, with GRATITUDE. I remember one of the most frustrating things growing up was when I had a friend over for a play date for the first time, and asked them if they were hungry and wanted anything to eat. They would insist that, “no I’m fine,” when in reality I know that they had thrown out their peanut butter and jelly sandwich at lunch that day because it was crushed to the point of no return. I just wanted them to say, “YES, PLEASE! What do you have?” People want to help other people out, yes, BUT they expect any favor to be given with a token of gratitude. Don’t be afraid to be a little selfish and ask someone who is smarter/wiser/fitter/more musical than you for help, but be a normal human being, follow up with them, and say “Thank you!” Was that so hard? 

Also, appreciate those who surround you, because they don’t have to be there. And know that they love you for a reason! You rock!

6. You have to be honest with the people you wish to keep close. You will get caught up in a lie, shit will hit the fan, and you’ll wish that you had just told your best friend that you never liked the guy she was about to meet up with in the first place.

7. Take a deep breath. Too often, I try to rush to the end of something, even if it’s just to say that I’m done.Relationships, studying, songs, blog posts, they all require you to pause for a second before you open your big fat mouth (this includes written forms) and not even think about what your mind is about to convey. Especially how you will wind up conveying it. Slow down! Things take time, and as long as your making the most of your days, you’re not wasting any of it.

8. Do not fear alone time. Do not fear your own thoughts. Alone time is the best time to get to know yourself, go hiking, or curl up with a book, or watch countless episodes of “Breaking Bad,” or bake a salted caramel cappuccino triple chocolate cheesecake treat that you pinned earlier, or do all of those things! The best part about alone time is that you can literally do anything that you want without needing somebody else’s approval. Even though times like this used to intimidate me, I don’t think I will ever willingly go to the mall with another person again because wandering around there is one of my favorite things to do on my own. LIBERATE YOURSELF. BE YOURSELF.

I like listing things, hopefully I’ll be on here more often.

Hope that this winter weather is treating you northerners well :)

10276.) I’m not a 13-year-old girl who thinks she’s madly in love with her newest boy toy who dumped her for her supposed best friend. I’m not a suicidal person seeking misguided attention on the Internet. I’m not a guy who will forever be stuck as a ‘best friend’ because he can’t be honest with her about his intentions. I’m not a person who secretly hates all their friends but continues to hang out with them. I’m not a skin-slashing hipster. And I don’t love anyone else more than I love myself. I have nothing to complain about. I grew up. And I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.

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psych-quotes:

People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. - Kent M. Keith

psych-quotes:

People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. - Kent M. Keith

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faintfamiliarity:

vintagegal:

I Love Lucy

God damn it.

faintfamiliarity:

vintagegal:

I Love Lucy

God damn it.

dearscience:

by Erik Mowinckel
hastingspences:

Can we acknowledge what a badass this girl is? 
Not society’s ‘thin and pretty’ standards of beautiful and has had multiple lead roles. 
Beat Casey Wilson out for her role in Bachelorette
Was the first person to be cast in Pitch Perfect 
Has a law degree from the University of New South Wales 
Distant relative of Walt Disney 
Was an Australian Youth Ambassador set in Southern Africa 
Started acting when she caught malaria and had hallucinations about winning an Oscar. 

hastingspences:

Can we acknowledge what a badass this girl is? 

  • Not society’s ‘thin and pretty’ standards of beautiful and has had multiple lead roles. 
  • Beat Casey Wilson out for her role in Bachelorette
  • Was the first person to be cast in Pitch Perfect 
  • Has a law degree from the University of New South Wales 
  • Distant relative of Walt Disney 
  • Was an Australian Youth Ambassador set in Southern Africa 
  • Started acting when she caught malaria and had hallucinations about winning an Oscar. 

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I just realized why i change from being a night owl to an early bird at home vs. college:

it’s basically when i can have some time to myself

zodiacchic:

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zodiacchic:

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The Villanova Haveners perform, “It’s Time” by Imagine Dragons. That’s me conducting! :)

Tomorrow is the last day of my sophomore fall semester:

This post is mostly for me! Sorry!
Tomorrow is my last final for the semester and it’s the first time that I’ve actually tried to recall all that has happened to me these past few months. There have been so many emotions-happiness, misery, embarrassment, pride, love-I could literally go on forever. I’m currently listening to “between the lines” by sara bareilles, so this post could get emotional.

I feel like I have grown more over this semester more than I have my entire life. I’ve opened up to people more than I normally would, and I don’t think I’ve ever felt so loved by people before, other than my family. Not only have people actually told me that that love me, but I’ve finally become comfortable telling others that I love them, and that is something that is taken for granted every day, and it makes me feel so good to be able to tell people how much I value them. I love the people that I am surrounded by everyday, for all that they are. Villanova really has become my second home and I am so happy to say how much I love it here.

I’m a member of the Villanova Haveners A Cappella group and have been given the honor of musical director for the 2012-2013 year, and I could not be more proud of us. We sound incredible and have become such a family-the Haveners are definitely one of my favorite parts of school, I am literally obsessed with them and all of a cappella.. my friends at Nova can vouch for me, haha. There is something so exhilarating about organically re-creating a song that takes 16 people to produce. It totally rejuvenates my love for music but in a completely different way, and I’m so grateful for this alternate perspective. Now, there is so much more to music than there used to be, and it’s such a wonderful gift that I wish everybody had passion for.

Living life in Fedigan has been so great. It’s not unlikely for us to have random dance parties or for me to be working out at obscene hours of the day while my roommate is sleeping. I LOVE my roommate, so much. She means so much to me and has taught me so much this year, and I am so grateful to live with her, especially because we know exactly how to make each other laugh and get distracted when we’re trying to sleep. My other roommates across the hall are amazing, they always put up with me waltzing in and bothering them whenever, and give me free tea, and are just overall amazing people. I miss my friends in the quad :( it’s sad that we were wrong when we said being across campus wouldn’t keep us apart because I feel like it has-just because we’ve been so busy. I have been swamped with work, and so have they, but junior year in an apartment together is going to be so great, I can’t wait.

Engineering is SO awesome! Literally everyday I have a nerdgasm and can’t wait to learn about something cool and new that a professor is working on or that we learn about in class, and it’s only going to get more involved as college progresses. We’re still in the early stages, I’m currently avoiding studying for statics, but it’s gonna be great, and I love it so far. Nothing like going into the workshop to get your hands all greased up and smell like sawdust for hours!

My love life? Currently non-existent. Well, I’ve got my eye on this super awesome and great guy but I have no idea what is going on with him, so I really just want to avoid getting my hopes up. Fingers crossed. :D

I feel GREAT. I’m feeling really tired and delirious and burnt out and anxious to go home yet sad to leave people but still wanting to go home. That made no sense? My life makes no sense right now, and even though the ambiguity stresses me out, I’m happy. I’m surrounded by love and couldn’t ask for anything more right now, except maybe some clarification in the romance department. I can’t wait to go home and see friends and family, and work on arrangements for Havs as well as my own musical endeavors.

Who am I kidding, I’m most excited to cook and be a lazy bum for a few days first.

MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR!