1. First impressions mean shit. I’m terrible at reading somebody based upon them, and I feel like I can be terrible at making them. Think about the first time you met your current best friend (if you can remember that), or even, think about the first day of any sort of setting in a new group.. how many people did you properly assess? Giving people a chance is very important. But still value a first impression in an interview, because otherwise you might not get anywhere. Looks do matter to some degree.
2. Even though the world is HUGE, “we’re not so different, you and I.” In the United States we (well, most of us) pride ourselves on being a melting pot of cultures and backgrounds. This is, however, umbrella-ed under “American Culture” which we all STILL have in common, and gives us something to talk about. On the other side of the world, sure people know what The Hunger Games is, but people don’t know that there are 50 states in the United States! What I’m trying to say is, there are so many different political issues, pop cultures, etc. between us and the rest of the world, that even when you strip those differences away, everybody still loves to laugh, meet new people, and be surrounded by love. Every. Single. Person.
3. Those who matter will stay in your life, but don’t get so clingy. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I myself am a very “here and now” kind of person in the fact that I get very involved with what is in front of me, and often forget about my best friends from middle school and even forget that my cell phone exists from time to time (TEXT CONVERSATIONS: NO.). That being said, just because I have not texted you eleven times today or even within the past three months, does not mean that you don’t cross my mind every so often and especially I don’t love you! Maybe this is something I need to work on, now that I think of it. Snapchat helps.
4. Forcing will not work. I cannot force a guy to like me, I cannot force my friends of different groups friends to weld together seamlessly, I cannot sing if I have bronchitis, and I definitely cannot make other people respect me if I do not show an ounce of compassion. Yes, if you look at it from a physics standpoint, any object that is at rest will remain at rest unless a force is applied to it, but how many people actually like Sheldon Cooper
5. Take what you are given, with GRATITUDE. I remember one of the most frustrating things growing up was when I had a friend over for a play date for the first time, and asked them if they were hungry and wanted anything to eat. They would insist that, “no I’m fine,” when in reality I know that they had thrown out their peanut butter and jelly sandwich at lunch that day because it was crushed to the point of no return. I just wanted them to say, “YES, PLEASE! What do you have?” People want to help other people out, yes, BUT they expect any favor to be given with a token of gratitude. Don’t be afraid to be a little selfish and ask someone who is smarter/wiser/fitter/more musical than you for help, but be a normal human being, follow up with them, and say “Thank you!” Was that so hard?
Also, appreciate those who surround you, because they don’t have to be there. And know that they love you for a reason! You rock!
6. You have to be honest with the people you wish to keep close. You will get caught up in a lie, shit will hit the fan, and you’ll wish that you had just told your best friend that you never liked the guy she was about to meet up with in the first place.
7. Take a deep breath. Too often, I try to rush to the end of something, even if it’s just to say that I’m done.Relationships, studying, songs, blog posts, they all require you to pause for a second before you open your big fat mouth (this includes written forms) and not even think about what your mind is about to convey. Especially how you will wind up conveying it. Slow down! Things take time, and as long as your making the most of your days, you’re not wasting any of it.
8. Do not fear alone time. Do not fear your own thoughts. Alone time is the best time to get to know yourself, go hiking, or curl up with a book, or watch countless episodes of “Breaking Bad,” or bake a salted caramel cappuccino triple chocolate cheesecake treat that you pinned earlier, or do all of those things! The best part about alone time is that you can literally do anything that you want without needing somebody else’s approval. Even though times like this used to intimidate me, I don’t think I will ever willingly go to the mall with another person again because wandering around there is one of my favorite things to do on my own. LIBERATE YOURSELF. BE YOURSELF.
I like listing things, hopefully I’ll be on here more often.
Hope that this winter weather is treating you northerners well :)